Bullying is a problem for today’s kids, both in person and online. But did you know that girls are more than twice as likely than boys to be cyber bullied? (source) And girl bullies don’t fit the old-fashioned stereotype of a bully, either.
The National Crime Prevention Council says that, “The typical girl who bullies is popular, well-liked by adults, does well in school, and can even be friends with the girls she bullies. She doesn't get into fist fights, although some girls who bully do. Instead, she spreads rumors, gossips, excludes others, shares secrets, and teases girls about their hair, weight, intelligence, and athletic ability. She usually bullies in a group and others join in or pressure her to bully.” (source)
That sounds pretty different from the image many of us have in our minds of a bully, doesn’t it? Girls who bully aren’t necessarily bigger or stronger than their victims, but they can cause serious problems for the girls they pick on.
And because girls tend to bully using their words (instead of physical tactics), their victims aren’t “safe” when they come home from school. Bullying continues online, via instant messages, and in email.
If your daughter is being bullied, or if you think your daughter might be bullying other girls or boys, there are resources online that might be helpful for you to know about:
This book list is from A Mighty Girl; “The world’s largest collection of books, toys and movies for smart, confident and courageous girls.” It includes more than a dozen books for you and your daughter that are specific to bullying among girls. The books are divided into age-appropriate categories, making it easier for you to pick out books that will help your and your daughter understand and manage bullying.
The National Crime Prevention Council offers a wide variety of resources on bullying, including an entire section of its site that’s dedicated to bullying and girls.
Girlshealth.gov/bulling is another helpful resource devoted entirely to girls and bullying. The site defines bullying, helps parents to better-understand what bullying looks like (especially in girls), and explains why bullying hurts. There are tips on the site to help girls cope with bullying, and there are even a few online quizzes about bullying.
For school counselors, teachers, administrators, or other adults who have a vested interested in ending bullying against girls, there are even conferences devoted entirely to ending girl bullying.
For more from Missouri Parent on Bullying, see these posts:
Infographic Shows Seriousness of Bullying
Bullying in Schools: How Adults Can Help
Posted on Wed, December 4, 2013
by MOParent filed under